When it comes to romantic and/or physical relationships, most of us have been familiar with the old baseball metaphor since middle school.
The stages tend to get muddled up a little depending on who you are asking, but the first and last steps usually tend to stay the same: 1st base = kissing, home run = going all the way.
Generally, 2nd base is mainly touchy-feely over-the-clothes stuff, while 3rd base is, well… under-the-clothes stuff. Specifically, under the pants.
Some people may find it easier to remember the baseball metaphor by recalling the four ‘Fs’:
- French
- Feel
- Finger
- F- …
Today, we are going to look at the under-the-clothes stuff, otherwise known as third base.
While this specific ‘base’ is generalized to cover the touching of the genitalia of each gender, in this article, we are going to discuss what happens when a male gets to third base.
Let’s Talk About Handjobs
Unlike blowjobs, the majority of those of male species had already mastered the art of choking the bishop before they ever even had their first romantic relationship.
Masturbation is a part of life and is by far one of the most exciting parts of puberty that a boy, or a person with a penis, will experience.
However, most people will vouch for the fact that while it feels great doing it to yourself, nothing quite matches up to another person getting involved to charm the old cobra for you.
While having your first kiss is a huge moment, as well as losing your virginity, no one ever forgets the middle ground stage: the first handjob.
If you are reading the article, perhaps you haven’t experienced this magical moment quite yet. Or, perhaps you don’t have a penis, and you are simply curious about the whole song-and-dance.
You may be wondering to yourself: what does it feel like to receive a handjob from another person? Is it really better than masturbating?
Well, you are in luck. Continue reading to find out the truth about having your own chain yanked, and why it feels better when someone else is doing it for you.
What Is a Handjob?
A ‘handjob’ is the slang term for the act of male masturbation, usually performed on a man by another person.
The act consists of an individual taking the male’s erect penis into their hand/hands and manually stimulating it for sexual pleasure, typically stroking the shaft up and down several times until the male reaches the point of climax/ejaculation.
Additionally, the person giving the handjob may also stimulate the scrotum at the same time in order to offer maximum pleasure.
The handjob itself can be performed as a solo act, simply done to provide the male with pleasure, or it can be used as a form of foreplay, making sure the penis is stimulated and fully erect, prepared for intercourse.
Handjobs are often paired or followed up with a blowjob, although this is not always the case.
What Does a Handjob Feel Like?
Just like most things in life, no two handjobs are ever the same. Depending on the person giving the handjob, it will feel pretty different each time.
According to some males, a handjob feels like masturbating, except their hand has fallen asleep so they cannot move it as they usually would.
People get used to their own styles of movement, so when another person takes over, it is almost a completely different sensation. It still feels good, but in a different way.
The penis may be soft, or semi-erect, when the handjob first begins. When the person giving the handjob starts massaging the penis, it will become more erect, and the male will begin to feel more and more aroused.
If lubricant is not being used, whether it be a store-bought lube or the other person’s spit, the motion could quickly become uncomfortable due to the friction, especially if the penis in question has been circumcised.
A handjob feels much better when the penis is lubricated, especially around and on the tip.
Some males may find it difficult to ejaculate while receiving a handjob, while others may find it difficult to last longer than a couple of minutes before reaching orgasm, depending on how fast the penis is being stroked.
Do Handjobs Feel Better When Someone Else Does it?
While some males will prefer a handjob to masturbation, others will claim that it doesn’t feel as good.
This often has nothing to do with the person giving in the situation, but more to do with the fact that, no matter who is giving the handjob, the person receiving it will always have better handjobs given by another person: themselves.
After so many years of practice on themselves, men know what feels good and what doesn’t: they know the exact pressure and tempo that will get themselves off, and they have perfected this method down to a T.
When another person gives them a handjob, the odds are that this person will not use the exact same technique as the guy receiving, meaning that while it still feels pretty great, it will almost never feel quite as good as when he does it to himself.
The same goes for females: those with vaginas may enjoy being fingered, but overall, no one knows how to pleasure you better than yourself. It just isn’t the same sensation.
Many males will find it harder to have an orgasm due to this: the unfamiliar grip and movement can make it difficult for them to reach that place mentally, and often, this is through no fault of the person giving the handjob.
This does not mean that a handjob doesn’t feel good, however. In fact, as we said, so many males do prefer a handjob over masturbation.
While the sensation feels different, it feels good to have another person’s hands on your genitals, especially someone that the receiver finds physically attractive, and that can turn them on even more.
While most males much prefer to engage within the act of sex itself, or a blowjob, over a simple handjob, it is still a great sensation that is unlikely to be turned down whenever the opportunity arises.
How To Give/Receive the Perfect Handjob (According to Guys)
As previously mentioned, one of the biggest reasons that guys do not enjoy handjobs as much as other sexual acts is because they are so used to doing it to themselves that they get frustrated when their partner does not mirror their usual actions.
The best way to avoid this is to know exactly what they want, and what feels best.
The most important thing for a person to remember whilst giving a handjob, and what most males wish that their partner would understand, is that they should focus on the upper part of the penis.
The tip of a penis is filled with several nerve endings, making it the most sensitive part of the organ. Those who have never given a handjob before, or those who are perhaps not as experienced, may focus on rubbing the lower part of the penis.
Unfortunately, this does not give much pleasure to the male at all: the lower shaft has no nerve endings, meaning that it does not really give much pleasure when it is handled.
The person giving the handjob should grasp onto the top of the penis, around the foreskin, and gently rub up and down so that the tip is being stimulated.
The grip shouldn’t be too tight, as this can cause discomfort, but not too loose either.
The overall motion should begin at a slower pace, building up pleasure, and gradually building up speed as the male gets closer to finishing.
While a handjob can be done with only one hand, it is generally much more pleasurable when both hands are being used, especially when massaging in a circular motion, one hand on top of the other.
Do Guys Like Handjobs?
Manual gratification has the most potential to end up being a pretty stressful part of sex. Maybe it’s too fast, slow, rough, or dry… Before a pessimistic attitude prevents you from trying, remember – many men like to receive “manual work.”
Here are some tips on giving your partner a dream experience the next time. We hope he will reciprocate with equal attention at the first opportunity.
Focus on the whole penis
As you probably already know, the tip of the penis is super sensitive. But just as women like to have their outer and inner labia stimulated, and of course, the clitoris, the entire length of the penis deserves full attention.
That implies thinking outside the framework of the classical school example of “hand technique.” Women need to know that the penis has a lot of nerve endings, and a well-done manual technique starts by touching the entire penis.
A little preparation doesn’t go amiss
If you’ve been holding a frozen margarita or playing with ice cubes all evening, do your partner a favor and warm your hands with warm water. Also, think about using some aids. Experts suggest soft, gentle strokes, stroking, and other tactile sensations. Try tickling his cock with a feather or wrapping a small bead around your hands and slowly moving them up and down, so the beads slide between your hands and his cock.
Change the speed
Pay attention to speed, rhythm, and pressure. Don’t just wildly grab onto his “pride” and strain it as if your life depended on it. Start slowly to see what suits your partner, the same way he satisfies you. You will feel how his penis reacts to different stimulation speeds, and don’t forget to listen to his breathing. Adjust the rhythm to his body. Every man has something he likes because no two penises are the same.
Super Handjobs
For the Handjob to be perfect, it is necessary to apply several techniques, use imagination, and explore what your partner likes.
Use lubricant
The lubricant has the power to turn any mediocre satisfaction into an unreal experience. It allows you to adjust the speed and grip. And coconut oil has a role to play if you’re avoiding a latex condom and intend to change positions at some point.
Coconut oil breaks down the latex in condoms and can make them ineffective. But there are also various types of lubricants that you can adapt to your wishes and needs.
Use both hands
For many men, two hands are better than one. Start touching him on the inner side of the thigh towards the top so that you can “play” with his genitals with your fingers. You run your thumbs between his torso and thighs, then touch the area behind his testicles with your hands. Change techniques from stroking the tip of the penis to stroking the entire penis. One particularly crazy move is putting both hands around the penis and turning each in its direction like a pepper mill. It would be best if you did that gently.
Make yourself comfortable
Finding a comfortable position is the key to success, leading to perfect hand technique and preventing his penis from bending in 50 directions. The best place for manual labor is sitting between your partner’s legs, with his legs extended and spread apart. You can stretch out your legs and put them over his legs. It’s a great position because it allows eye contact and access to the entire pelvic area.
Final Thoughts
Lastly, one of the most important aspects of a handjob, just like any other sexual act, is communication!
The receiver should let the giver know what they want, letting the giver know if they are moving too fast, too slow, too roughly, etc.
When the receiver is communicating fully, telling their partner what they like and what they want, it will be much easier for both participants to relax and enjoy themselves.
