Gentle Femdom

If you want to try something different and spice up your sex life, you’ve come to the right place! Gentle Femdom is an opportunity to discover new practices and ways of enjoyment together and learn some tricks you will surely like. 

Routine destroys pleasure and excitement, as you already know, so it is not recommended in intimate moments with your partner either. Maybe you’ve already thought about incorporating a little BDSM practice into your everyday sex life, and perhaps you’re already discovering the magic of it. 

But what if we reveal to you that there is a possibility to try something completely different, but without punishing and inflicting pain, in order to experience the ultimate pleasure? When it comes to the mainstream view of BDSM practice, people often don’t talk enough about the different types of dominance and submissiveness, as well as their unique roles. That’s when Gentle Femdom comes into play.

New tricks in your bedroom can spice up your special moments, but they can also bring you closer as a couple. Different types of BDSM also have different practices performed to achieve ultimate pleasure. Many of them don’t even involve the typical handcuffing of a partner or perhaps whipping for pleasure. Exactly one of them is Gentle Femdom – a different way to improve your sex life. Whether you are familiar with the practices it consists of or know nothing about them and want to find out, this article will tell you everything you need to know about this kink.

What is Gentle Femdom

Gentle Femdom (often abbreviated as GFD) is a term for gentle female domination. This practice includes consensual female dominance or dominance of a partner who identifies as female, which does not involve the infliction of physical and mental pain, humiliation, or punishment. This is the essential difference between GFD and typical BDSM practice.

GFD arose as a contrast to the trendy view of Femdom created by the mainstream porn industry. What distinguishes these two types is that Gentle Femdom does not have the usual pretty unemotional and often violent Femdom, which is also male-centered. As its name suggests, this intimate practice is a gentler type, a type of dominance in which there is more affection and love than in the traditional form of domination. GFD is characterized by the fact that it often does not even have to include sexual activity. In any case, the consent of both parties is essential for the exercise of this practice. This rule of agreement also applies to all scene/play relationships, whether or not it’s a softer version of them. 

The role of women in Femdom is crucial, and many people claim that in Gentle Femdom, that role is even maternal in nature, and the reason is that mothers protect their children from harm. Gentle Femdom often includes roleplay, where the Dominant can play the role of teacher and her partner the role of student. The submissive can reciprocate her in different ways, such as servitude actions, sexual pleasure as body worship, and even submissive actions such as doing household chores for his Dominant.

On the other hand, the roles of the gentle Dominant are varied and exciting and sometimes include quite simple acts of dominance. The gentle Dominant can tie her submissive partner, use masks or blindfold him, and her dominance is reflected in some of the following actions:

• The submissive can strip for The Dominant
• The Dominants can pick her Submissive’s clothes
• Delayed orgasm and teasing done by the Dominant
• Sensational play (using chilled dildos or hot wax)
• Restraint play (with bondage tapes, ropes, or cuffs)

The Dominant in Gentle Femdom takes control and responsibility but also will not punish her submissive partner if he does not fulfill some or any of her demands, unlike the traditional dominatrix. This means that she will neither mentally nor physically humiliate her partner nor emasculate him, and even his attempts to fulfill her demands within the framework of Gentle Femdom will be rewarded with affection and praise.

How to get into Gentle Femdom

Gentle Femdom has many fans and lovers as well as a large online following. Fans and anyone interested can find different forms of artwork, such as pictures, gifs, fan-art stories about GFD, and the platforms where all this is available are Reddit, 4chan, Tumblr, and others. This online material and various available scenarios allow the submissives to imagine what their relationship with a gentle Dominant would look like, but also enrich their experience in an existing femdom relationship. Gentle Femdom was created for all those submissives who prefer a femdom relationship that is more loving and affectionate and, at the same time, want their Dominant to take charge without inflicting pain on them in any form.

When it comes to women, Gentle Femdom is a type of enjoyment for women who like to have the leading role and dominate the relationship, especially if they want to practice it without causing hurt or pain to their partner. This is precisely why this is a way for females to explore Gentle Femdom in a more natural way than the usual dominant role, and also, the role of the submissive partner will be more natural. Indeed, this discovery of dominant demands and behaviors can be exciting but also taboo.

Gentle Femdom is practiced by couples interested in exploring kink, which makes this particular kink popular because it allows couples to safely explore their relationship, deepen their connection, and feel comfortable doing so. This journey can lead to later exploration and more intensive practices within BDSM. 

As with BDSM practices, in Gentle Femdom, it is crucial to communicate and talk about the limits and desires of both parties so that the couple can determine what is best for them. In this type of relationship, the Dominant should not exploit the submissive, so a safeword or signal should be established to end the play safely. The goal is for both parties to feel enjoyment, not discomfort, so the submissive should feel free to end the play at any time.

Gentle Femdom Ideas

Female domination does not have to be very intense. There are other types as well, such as Gentle Femdom, which is a gentle version of BDSM practice. This dominance style is perfect for people just starting to explore D/s relationships. The exchange of power within BDSM play, whatever it is about, includes many elements from which each party can choose the ones they prefer the most.

Suppose you are one of those who are not attracted to hardcore bondage but want to practice a relationship of dominance. In that case, you can try GFD, which focuses on experimenting with sensuality, reward, and affection. Whatever you like, there are a number of different ideas to discover Gentle Femdom with your partner, and we present you some of the most common ones.

Femdom BDSM

Practicing BDSM and different types of domination can also be highly intimate, although it may not seem like it at first glance. GFD is a version of the domination relationship that is great for beginners who want to explore more. If, on the other hand, you prefer more extreme forms of practicing domination, you might like to change the dynamics a little within the relationship and experience a gentle variant of this type of enjoyment, Gentle Femdom.

If you don’t know how to bring up the topic of your desire to practice Gentle Femdom, you can start a conversation with your partner about whether there is something he would like to try, which could include different roles, toys, or sexual scenarios. That’s how you’ll know if you’re on the same page when it comes to wanting a D/s relationship. Some couples like to make their adventure official and create a BDSM contract.

You and your partner can start by roleplaying within sexual activities so that a female is the one who is in charge and who is dominant in the relationship. There are different roles, among which you will certainly find one that suits you, but even if this is not the case, roleplay is just one of the many options for practicing Gentle Femdom. There are, as we mentioned, many roles in a D/s relationship that you may like and which you can try:

• Exotic dancer & client
• Monarch & servant
• Teacher & student
• (Step) Mother & child
• Coach & athlete
• Boss & employee
• Owner & pet (also known as pet play)

In these roles, as you can see, the position of mentor or superior is reserved for the Dominant, based on which you can manage your roleplay scene. In this way, together with your partner, you can realize some of the fantasies you’ve always wanted within the roles played in Gentle Femdom.

In addition to roleplaying, dressing up in different costumes is also popular within Gentle Femdom. Domme can even choose what her sub-partner will wear when it comes to clothes, and training, which can be before the scene but also during the scene. Of course, various accessories are also possible, including make-up and lingerie. 

To satisfy his Dominant and fulfill her special requirements, the submissive partner can wear feminine things, such as heels, lace panties and bras, stockings, and other accessories. On the other hand, the Dominant can emphasize her position within the D/s relationship by wearing a power suit or glasses. Collars are also trendy for submissives, whether they are male or female, and this practice is also used in BDSM and GFD. This is how the power relationship is shown and is very popular among many couples in the relationship of dominance and submissiveness.

In the context of BDSM, the letter B stands for bondage, so we must also mention that type of play when we talk about Gentle Femdom. Since we are talking about a D/s relationship, bondage is necessary to establish a relationship of dominance, which is enjoyed by both The Dominant and the submissive. You can use whatever suits you best from the available bondage equipment. The equipment includes ropes, cuffs (which can be soft, metal, etc.), and other equipment materials such as nylon and leather are also available. We will emphasize that ropework can also be particularly intimate because it gives you space to focus on your partner’s body.

Dirty Talk

When we mention dirty talk, extremely intense phrases often come to mind, but also many potentially offensive phrases; however, there are none in GFD. In Gentle Femdom, the focus is on gentle phrases that show the nurturing and caring side of the Dominant, without insults and humiliation. This aspect of GFD allows you to compliment your partner and praise his body, services, and skills, so it can be concluded that it is closely related to the reward aspect.

Dirty Talk Femdom Phrases

You might feel like you need a dirty talk guide, but relaxing and indulging in phrases that will spice up your special moments is really easy. If you still need a little help, we have prepared some popular Gentle Femdom phrases that you can try:

• You’re a good boy
• I’d love for you to …
• Do you think you deserve … ?
• It feels so good when you do …
• Prove that you deserve …
• You really want to please me, don’t you?
• Show me how badly you want it
• Beg for me
• You really like this, don’t you?
• Why should I do … ?
• Tell me what you want.

The phrases “I love you” and “Thank you” also belong here because the Dominant should express gratitude and praise of the sub-partner with the help of dirty talk.

Pegging

When it comes to Gentle Femdom, it is clear from the previous explanations that the female is dominant with the submissive male, which is also reflected in their sexual life. There will be more to say about submissive sex and positions, but we can start with the aspect that is a big part of GFD, which is penetrating the male. 

One more reason why Gentle Femdom is so popular is that you can satisfy this aspect in different ways, whether it’s penetration or just stimulation with the help of various sex toys. 

Pegging is the name for anal penetration with the help of a strap-on and a way to stimulate the sensitive male organ, the prostate. In order to be a gentle femdom, you can think of different ways to satisfy your partner’s needs but also to express your dominance over him in the scene. It is recommended to indulge in prostate play, and you can also use your partner’s mouth or anus as the main penetration zone in Gentle Femdom. 

We mentioned sex toys for GFD anal penetration, so we will explain in more detail how you can use them within this D/s relationship. You can use a sex toy for penetration or stimulate certain parts of the body, which is helpful if you don’t like the idea of penetration or want more exciting options. You can use the vibrator in sensitive areas on your sub-partner’s body, such as the testicles, penis, nipples, etc. Also, as a domme, you can use sex toys on yourself while the submissive watches, which can be one of his rewards. A cock ring can also be used for male sub-satisfaction, and it will also please females.

Anal Sex Positions

Regardless of the method of penetration of your little partner in Gentle Femdom, the most important thing is clear and gentle communication about each step of the game and the ideas of both parties. Popular positions that you, as the Dominant, can try for penetration include doggy style, leaning the sub-partner over the bed or chair, being the big spoon, and many more. 

It would help if you tried out different positions within the play to find the one that suits you best, and you can also discuss this before the beginning of the activity. Remember to use enough lube when it comes to anal penetration. Apart from sex toys, in GFD, you can also use your hands and fingers to stimulate the organs because you can control the stimulation, and it is also a gentler way to be the Dominant.

Harness & Latex Play

In Gentle Femdom, various toys and pieces of clothing, such as collars, handcuffs, masks, blindfolds, bondage, leather gloves, spanking pads, and other accessories, can be used. When it comes to clothes, a harness is very popular, but so are other accessories made of leather or latex. Sexy underwear and lingerie can also be used, as well as different costumes – depending on your preferences.

Pussy Worship

Worshiping the female partner, mentally and physically, is essential when discussing Gentle Femdom practices. This idea of Gentle Femdom includes numerous body worship activities, whether it is the whole body or a specific part of the body. The Dominant can mostly instruct the submissive to worship some part of her body, but he can also get it as a reward after he has done something well or begged for it.

Also, you will like that any part of the body can be the focus of worship by the sub-partner, so even dirty talk and photos of that part of the body can be used. Gentle Femdom thus enables the submissive partner to fulfill his fantasies about some part of the body, whether it is the feet (yes, foot fetish also belongs here), the pussy, or some other part of the body. This includes kissing, stroking, sucking, biting, and licking, as well as many other activities and fascination with the domme’s body.

Submissive Male

When it comes to the submissive male in Gentle Femdom, we usually talk about a series of submissive roles, including submissive sex. This aspect of GFD refers to the fact that the Dominant should be in sexual positions so that her superiority is emphasized. However, care should also be taken to ensure that both parties are satisfied because it is still a gentle version of BDSM.

This is most often shown in Gentle Femdom in poses where the female is on top, but dominance can also be achieved in other ways; you can even be creative and come up with a position that suits you best. Positions ideal for female dommes in GFD is Cowgirl or Reverse Cowgirl to show that the woman is in charge. The submissive can be on his knees to satisfy his domme, not only in terms of sexual pleasures but also within his servitude in the form of services, tasks, and requests from her.

Gentle Femdom also includes practices with the help of which the Dominant has control over the satisfaction of the male sub-partner, and at the same time with dirty talk, her own body, and sex toys. In that case, it is controlled when the submissive can touch himself or have a climax, which can come later as one of the rewards.

The submissive gets the opportunity to receive a reward from his Queen if he is obedient. Some of the examples for rewarding sub-partners by the domme in Gentle Femdom are:

• Giving or receiving oral sex, depending on whether the sub asked the domme for it or she decided to reward him
• Gentle stroking and touching
• Praise and words of affirmation
• Allowing the submissive to touch himself
• Allowing the submissive to have an orgasm

These awards are conditioned by the established agreement within the D/s relationship because each of these relationships is unique.

How to find gentle femdom girlfriend

An important part for submissives in Gentle Femdom is the worship of their partners, which includes both physical and mental worship. For this reason, the submissive male will find a better connection with a dominatrix who has such a lifestyle and takes control, but not with a professional dominatrix who is paid for domination services, and who is a better choice for those who are looking for traditional domination. Also, these submissives would like a vanilla female with whom they could play a submissive role and give her all their affection and attention.

Gradually Introducing Kink

When the Dominant began exploring the kink of Gentle Femdom, she must have wondered how to present it to her partner as something she wants to try or include in her daily life. The solution for that is conversation and communication, after which couples will gradually become familiar with this kink and practice it more comfortably and safely. 

After reading this article, many couples will think that this way of enjoyment is ideal for them, so they will gradually start introducing new practices and learning skills to enrich their sex life. In this case, the Dominant will guide the Gentle Femdom, and everything happens place by mutual agreement, but there is one main rule – that she is in charge all the time.

How to start with gentle femdom

You can start your Gentle Femdom journey by slowly adding its ideas and elements to your daily routine and sex life, and after practicing and including new expressions like “mistress”, you are ready for more. The role of the submissive is to listen to the orders and requests of his domme, to communicate what he would like them to do in terms of activities, and of course – to try to fulfill his partner’s wishes to receive a reward.

The sub-partner will have different roles and tasks within GFD experimentation, such as wearing lingerie or women’s clothing as part of gender play and using sex toys such as strap-ons and butt plugs can also be an exciting experience. Part of figuring out this kink is constant communication and the opportunity to gain a great deal of knowledge about each other. Aftercare is also one of the parts of Gentle Femdom, which brings a chance to build even more deeply the private foundation of the couple in a D/s relationship and includes the time devoted to additional care and nurturing of the partner so that he feels safe and comfortable. In this way, sex is an act that is an open place that is gentle but offers space to explore sexuality.

After the play in Gentle Femdom, erotic bathing is ideal for both parties in a D/s relationship to enjoy. There is the possibility of shaving each other, where mutual care and nurturing is shown, and it can be part of the instructions and part of the reward.

Conclusion

Through the practice of Gentle Femdom, a couple can indulge in improving their relationship through the discovery of sexuality, a variety of new skills, and more advanced communication. This gentle game of dominance is an ideal way for both parties – the Dominant and the submissive – to learn a lot about themselves and their partner and to gain self-confidence.