Today, we’re talking about pegging — and we’re definitely not talking about doing the laundry. Nope, pegging is a sexual act, that has become popular in recent years. So, pegging, what exactly is it?
Pegging is a sexual act that involves a cis, heterosexual (hetero) woman and a cis, hetero man. The woman wears a strap-on dildo and consensually penetrates the man’s anus.
You’ll probably note that we have been gender-specific here. That is because this is an act that is usually linked to cis and hetero couples. While any gender can do pegging, it is merely a term associated with cis and hetero couples.
Why Do Men Like Being Pegged?
Men have a prostate, which is located in their anus. This can be viewed as the male G-spot. It’s a small gland, the size of a walnut, around found 2-3 inches inside the anus.
The prostate contains lots of nerve endings, and if touched in the right way, these nerve endings can produce a full body orgasm.
We’ve come a long way in destigmatizing the prostate, but there are still stereotypes that surround male pleasure. Many people still have stereotypical beliefs about male anal play, stating it is ‘gay’.
Anal play and anal sex have nothing to do with sexuality. Any person, of any gender, and any sexuality can engage in consensual anal sex and anal play. The stereotype is the product of the patriarchy and is deeply sexist.
Men have a prostate, and as a result, they can experience a lot of pleasure from the stimulation of the anal.
While women do not have a prostate, some women can experience pleasure due to the location of their nerve endings, but just the same, some women do not receive pleasure from anal play.
Some men also may not like anal play, everyone is different, regardless of their gender and sexuality.
Why Do Women Like Pegging?
You might wonder, then, why women like pegging if they are not receiving pleasure from the act. After all, the women are not being penetrated, they are doing the penetrating with a strap-on dildo.
When there’s a lot to consider here, so let’s dive into some different reasons why women may like pegging.
The Power Of Being A Top
One reason that women strongly enjoy pegging is the power it brings them. There is a psychological pleasure that comes from the switching of role reversals, where women feel in control of the situation.
Regardless of whether the woman is submissive or dominant in their usual sexual practice, the feeling of being inside a man and penetrating can be very powerful for a woman.
Also, the novelty of a woman wearing a dildo can be exciting for both women and men.
That does not make it homosexual, the dildo in this sense symbolizes power. The novelty of the experience can stimulate dopamine, which has a direct effect on sexual arousal and sexual excitement.
If couples find their bedroom routine has become just that, a routine, then adding a novel experience to the mix can have a big impact.
It is a liberating experience, where the notion of gender is heavily switched, which allows for greater sexual freedom.
There are fewer ‘expectations of how each partner should act, and instead, they are free to engage in a totally different experience.
Watching Your Partner Experience A Different Orgasm
The prostate orgasm is different from a regular orgasm.
With a regular orgasm, full ejaculation will occur, from the penis. With a prostate orgasm, some fluid may come out of the penis, but there is often a white liquid that comes out of the prostate, which is often a cream color.
This is also called milking, due to the color of the liquid.
For most men, their regular orgasm is isolated to the penile area. While men can experience full-body orgasms, it is not a guaranteed experience.
With a prostate orgasm, men will frequently experience a full-body orgasm. This means that the sensation of pleasure can be felt throughout the body, rather than in just one isolated area.
Being able to experience watching your partner have a different type of orgasm, and being part of the experience itself, can feel empowering, and build a connection.
The Intimacy
As you can intimate, pegging is a very intimate experience. Due to the patriarchal expectations put on men, a lot of men will not engage in anal play, with their own anus.
So, the notion of consensually engaging in anal sex, and being able to perform a sexual act in a very vulnerable spot, can be an extreme bonding experience. The vulnerability that both partners exhibit can help them feel connected and liberated.
The man may experience a role he has never truly been in before, the submissive role. While the women may experience being in control sexually for the first time.
While there are undertones of dominance and power, it goes without saying it is a highly intimate experience.
Sexual Pleasure
While not every woman will experience sexual pleasure, many women do experience sexual pleasure while pegging. There are two keynotes to add here.
The first is that sexual pleasure can be experienced from the thrusting movements. When the woman thrusts, it may indirectly stimulate her clitoris and vulva, which can produce pleasure akin to masturbating.
The second is that you can purchase vibrating dildos.
While the vibrating is designed to be pleasurable for the man, in this instance, it can also be pleasurable for the woman. That is because the woman will feel the vibrations against her vulva, which can be pleasurable.
That, added with the thrusting movements, can be very pleasurable for some women. It can bring some women to climax, but of course, it depends on the individual.
Sexual Awakening
For some, engaging in pegging can be a sexual awakening.
Couples may find that they really enjoyed certain aspects of pegging, and it might encourage them to engage in other sexual acts, that they have not explored before.
It could be that more anal play is explored, that the woman experiences anal, or even that rimming is explored.
Or, rather than physical exploration, it could be the notion of psychology that is explored. By that, what gets the woman off, or the man off, could be the role reversal and power dynamics.
It might be that a woman being in the dominant role is very arousing, and the man being a submissive may also be arousing. It can open doors to new, exciting sexual activities that can be enjoyed.
Freedom From Gender
The reality is, many women may not get any physical pleasure from pegging, but they might get a different kind of psychological pleasure, and intimacy.
As stated, the patriarchy has made it so that a straight man engaging in anal play is ‘gay’, which is wildly sexist and limits sexual pleasure.
Witnessing a man break free from toxic masculinity, and be confident in himself to engage in anal play, can be quite arousing for some women. It signifies a man who is confident and comfortable in who he is, and that he does not care for sexual stigmas.
It may also be a notion of safety and security because the man is being very vulnerable, the woman may feel like it is safer for her to be vulnerable, and also explore her sexuality.
Summary
These are just some reasons a woman might like pegging.
It might be that the woman feels sexy within a dominant role, as in turned on by a man being submissive. Or. it could be that watching a man have a full-body orgasm is very intimate, and makes the woman feel powerful.
It could be any of the reasons on the list or none at all.
If you are thinking about pegging, then feel free to share this article with your partner. Before any sexual act, clear boundaries and communication should occur.
Before you engage in pegging, you should also ensure that you have practiced with fingers, and butt plugs, so that the anus is wide enough to accept a dildo.
Remember, lube should always be used, and condoms can make it safer. While it might be a dildo, it makes the whole experience cleaner.
