Any form of anal sex can be intimidating if you’ve never tried it before, and butt plugs are no different. However, as long as you know what you’re doing there isn’t anything to worry about.
If you’re interested in stepping into the world of anal play and want to know a bit more about butt plugs and their uses, this guide has got you covered.
Here you can find out what a butt plug is, how to use it, and some information on how to get the most out of your toy.
Then let’s get started!
What Is A Butt Plug?
A butt plug is a sex toy that is used in anal play.
They are typically shaped like a teardrop, with a flared base to prevent it from going too far in.
Butt plugs vary in length and girth, but usually, they are around 3-4” long and 1-2” wide. However, you can find butt plugs that are smaller, or much bigger depending on your preference and experience.
Butt plugs, as the name suggests, are inserted into the anus and stimulate the many nerve endings in there.
While it can be removed and replaced, or moved around while inside, many people will just leave it in their anus during intercourse or other sexual activity to add extra stimulation and pleasure.
There are many different types of butt plugs that come in a range of shapes, sizes, and designs.
What Are They For?
Butt plugs are used for several reasons. A butt plug can be a great way to get into anal play, as well as helping prepare you for larger objects like a bigger toy, a penis, or even gaping (if it’s something you enjoy or want to try).
Because the butt plug usually stays in the anus for an extended period of time, it helps train your anal muscles to stretch and loosen. This makes other aspects of anal play, such as anal sex, more comfortable and enjoyable.
Butt plugs also feel great, regardless of gender.
The anus is one of the most sensitive areas of the body and is full of nerve endings. Butt plugs stimulate these nerves and can be used in tandem with other sexual acts to increase a person’s pleasure.
Not only that, but the feeling of penetration can also be incredible, while the short length of the butt plug means it won’t feel too intrusive.
A typical butt plug is also the perfect size to stimulate the prostate.
The prostate (or P-Spot) is a highly sensitive part of the body found in people assigned male at birth (like cisgender men or transgender women).
Stimulating the prostate can be incredibly pleasurable, and adds an extra layer of pleasure to sex or foreplay.
But although not everyone has a prostate, people of any gender can enjoy the feeling of a butt plug, and anyone can have an anal orgasm through anal play and stimulation.
For people assigned female at birth (like cisgender women or transgender men), a butt plug will widen the anal canal and subsequently decrease the width of the anal canal.
This – along with almost simulating double penetration – makes it easier for your partner or yourself to hit the G-Spot.
Additionally, it makes the vaginal canal feel tighter for your partner if they have a penis, increasing their pleasure as well.
How To Use A Butt Plug
So how do you use a butt plug? Let’s take a look.
Before you start using your butt plug, you need to prepare.
The first thing you should do is make sure everything’s clean.
You should be making sure your sex toys are clean before every use regardless, but you should also wipe yourself down with a cleaning wipe or have a shower beforehand.
While you won’t normally have any poop in your anal canal anyway, this will make sure that everything is staying clean and sanitary.
Foreplay is also a big thing to consider. Sticking a butt plug in without any preparation or foreplay is a recipe for disaster, so you’re better off working up to it with some foreplay to get you in the mood.
Not only will a bit of foreplay put you in the right mood for inserting a butt plug, but it will also help relax your muscles to make the process easy and painless.
You also need to use plenty of lube, both on yourself and on the plug itself.
The best lube depends on what your toy is made of – silicone-based lubes typically work best, but if your butt plug is made of silicone as well you should use a water-based lube.
Not that you’re all warmed up, it’s time to put the plug in!
Because of the butt plug’s shape, the thinnest part will be entering first before getting wider as you put it in. Don’t be tempted to push it in straight away – you wouldn’t do it with anything else, and a butt plug is no different.
The best position for inserting a butt plug mostly comes down to personal preference, although certain positions definitely make it easier.
Laying in doggy style with your legs slightly apart will leave your muscles looser and more relaxed, although it can be difficult to put it in on your own. Getting a partner to help will make things much easier.
Don’t worry if you don’t have someone to put the butt plug in for you, though. You can manage solo by standing and leaning forwards, with your legs about a shoulder-width apart.
Alternatively, you can put it in while lying on your back like in the missionary position.
When you’re in position, line up the thin tip with the entrance to your anus. Take a deep breath and start pushing it in. Exhale slowly while you’re inserting it to help yourself relax.
When it’s inside, you may want to give it a slight wiggle to make sure it’s in comfortably.
Unlike a penis, dildo, or other forms of penetration, a butt plug is meant to stay still and secure once you insert it. That said, some people enjoy the sensation of slightly tugging or pressing it in.
Because of its shape, the plug will stimulate both the inside and entrance to the anus. Combining a butt plug with other forms of masturbation or sexual activity helps elevate the experience above regular sex.
Think of it like having a great wine with a delicious meal; both are great enough on their own, but when they are combined they are greater than the sum of their parts.
When removing your butt plug, you may want to add some more lube to make it easier. Then simply pull it gently while keeping your muscles as relaxed as possible.
What Different Types Of Butt Plug Are There?
As mentioned previously, butt plugs come in many sizes, shapes, and designs.
A simple butt plug will usually just consist of the teardrop-shaped shaft and the flared base and is made of silicon, glass, or neoprene.
However, there are many other varieties of butt plugs for you to enjoy.
Vibrating butt plugs dial the pleasure up a notch, especially in cisgender male or AMAB (Assigned Male At Birth) people. The vibrations give much more stimulation to the prostate, as well as stimulate the multitude of nerves in and around the anus.
If you have a more kinky side, you may want a butt plug with a tail. This gives your butt plug an extra bit of style, as well as an easier thing to hold if you’re moving the butt plug around.
The size of a butt plug can also vary a lot.
Training butt plugs are smaller varieties that are usually only around an inch wide and 2-3” long, making them better for anyone just starting out with anal play or who doesn’t want to put anything too large up there.
On the flip side, you can also find much larger-than-average butt plugs for the more adventurous kinkster looking to stretch their anus or add more stimulation.
Things You Should Know
There are a few things you need to think about before you ever try using a butt plug.
First of all, lube is your friend. Trying to put in a butt plug without the proper lubrication can be painful at best, and actively harmful at worst. Make sure you’re using plenty of lube, and that you use the right lube for the job.
Water-based lubricants are easily absorbed in the anus, so it isn’t the best choice for any sort of anal play. Silicone-based lubes, however, are thicker and will last much longer.
Just make sure you aren’t using a silicone-based lube if your butt plug is also made of silicone, as the lube will break down the butt plug while it’s inside. Silicone-based lube is perfect for a butt plug made of a different material, but you should find an alternative if you have a silicone butt plug.
You should also consider your own limits – you won’t do yourself any favors if you start off with a butt plug that’s too big for you. Any sort of anal play requires preparation, and butt plugs are no different.
If you use a butt plug that’s too big, you risk tearing, anal fissures, or worse. Make sure you go at the right pace for yourself and build up to a larger butt plug.
So now you know a bit more about butt plugs and their uses, all that’s left for you to do is try it out for yourself.
As long as you make sure you’re staying safe and comfortable, you’ll have a great introduction to the world of anal play.