Scissoring. We all know that word, but how much do we truly understand it? It is understandable to have many thoughts and queries on the act.
Some love it, some hate it. What does it feel like? And are there any benefits? Is it worth trying out or is it just a crazy fantasy you need to shake off? Well, look no further. All the answers to your intimate questions are here.
What Is Scissoring?
Scissoring is the sexual act between two females in which the two intertwine their legs into a “scissor” position, rubbing vulvas in order to create that sexual stimulation.
It is pretty much exactly how it sounds. The “scissor” comes from the position of the legs, therefore creating the term “scissoring”.
But is scissoring purely online entertainment, or is this done outside of porn? This question is valid as many of the things we see online which are described as “sex” are not always accurate.
It is often found in porn that the way a person physically looks is not realistic, but most of all it is the sexual positions they show men and women to be in – this is not real.
But scissoring? Now, this is one sex move that many can relate to.
Scissoring Isn’t For Everyone
You may be up to giving this sex position a try with your partner, or maybe you’ve already tried it, but it is important to know that scissoring isn’t for everyone.
It can be awkward, it can be uncomfortable for yourself or your partner or both. That is why experimenting is great.
It is important to know that you are able to be sexually active in a way that makes you happy as well as being self-aware.
Scissoring Vs Tribbing: What’s The Difference?
One thing that people get confused with is the difference between scissoring and Tribbing.
These two are very similar yet have some differences. As we have already discovered, scissoring is when two vulvas rub together in a scissoring position – this has to be genital to genital contact.
Tribbing, on the other hand, is the act of rubbing the vulva against your partner. It is easy to get these two terms confused (they are very similar) but it isn’t something that should be overthought.
As long as you are both pleasured and feel that intimate connection, you’re not doing anything wrong.
What Does It Feel Like?
So, you’ve never tried scissoring and want to know what it’s all about? They make it look so appealing in porn, but is it really that great?
Or is it another dose of actresses overdramatizing this sexual act? (It’s probably a bit of both).
Truly, the pleasure a person gets from scissoring all depends on that individual. Experts say that depending on the position of the vulva (front-facing vs back-facing) and the size of the clitoris, the scissoring experience can be different.
If you have a front-facing vulva, for example, you are more likely to feel that physical genital connection, and this, in turn, adds that pleasurable stimulation.
Despite all this, however, you’d be surprised with how many people actually take up scissoring – (it’s not a lot).
Scissoring, for many, is the “lesbian fantasy” (that’s not to say you have to class yourself as a lesbian to perform this act), and this sex position is not too common.
Do people experiment with this? Of course! Is it in their everyday sex schedule? More than likely not.
Now, this isn’t to say that there is anything wrong with scissoring, it is more due to the unrealistic, unattainable position.
Clitoral stimulation during scissoring is difficult to control, and it is also tiring. The point of sex is to gain that physical stimulation, but if this is not cutting it then find other moves that work in a person’s favor.
How To Make Scissoring Feel Better
There are several ways to improve your sex life and tips on how to make your sexual experiences pleasurable.
With scissoring, it is found that it can be difficult to stay stimulated or to feel aroused at all, however, there are some ways to make this experience better.
Use Toys
You don’t just have to be limited to using your vulva to achieve scissoring. If that isn’t enough to stimulate you, try incorporating toys. This can include a vibrator, dildo, anything that feels good for you.
Foreplay
It is common for people to need to build up to the sexual act. This helps to get a person in the mood and when improve the sexual experience.
Erogenous Zones
Don’t forget about the erogenous zones! Go and explore your partner, allow your partner to explore you.
Benefits
Did you know there are many benefits to scissoring? For one, it is an intimate position.
You are able to achieve great clitoral stimulation from the genital connection which helps with reaching that climax.
As well as this, scissoring allows a person access to different angles of penetration.
Remember, you can use more than your vulva in this position, and it doesn’t always have to be a vagina. There are many heterosexual couples (male and female) who experiment with scissoring, applying an alternative angle to sex.
This position is great for accessing different angles. Even if you are two females, plenty of toys can be used and the scissoring angle is perfect for penetration.
Final Thoughts
Scissoring is a sexual act that isn’t commonly used, however it is widely heard of. You hear about it in porn, watching two women stimulate themselves together, but for the most part, this is just an act.
Many women who have tried have admitted to finding the position awkward or having problems with stimulation.
Does this mean you shouldn’t try it or should be ashamed for wanting to try it? Of course not! Experimenting is all part of the sexual journey and if you are wanting to try scissoring, so be it. Who knows? You may end up loving it!
There are many pros and cons to the subject however it is clear that there is no definitive answer. What does scissoring feel like? It is all dependent on the individual.
Everybody reacts differently and you will find that people will be more turned on by one thing than another. Some people will have the best sexual experience whilst others will feel nothing, but the best way to find your answer is to try it for yourself.
In sex, (and this can be with two men, two women, and a man and a woman, anyone), what is important is intimacy. Intimacy between people is something that needs to be discovered as every sexual partner you will be with will differ.
You may be with a woman who loves scissoring and then with a woman who does not. What is most important is that you find somebody with who you are sexually compatible with and who you can pleasure comfortably.
After reading this article, it is hoped that you will have found your answer. Sex is full of curiosity, and that is nothing to be ashamed of. So have fun, no matter what you end up doing. Everyone’s experiences are unique.
