It would be a lie to say that we haven’t all had one or two curious thoughts about sex. Whether you are new to the sex game or experienced, there is always something we don’t know.
There are men who want to know what fingering feels like, women who are curious about handjobs, but have you ever stopped to think about what fisting feels like? And what is fisting really all about?
We will be going into depth about the world of fisting, learning about what it is, how it feels, and helping to turn that curiosity into knowledge.
So, What Is Fisting?
Fisting is a word we have all heard of, whether that be from a friend or from a porn film, but only some can say they have experienced it.
Fisting is the act of your sexual partner entering their fingers into the vagina one by one until all five fingers have been inserted.
Practically the entire hand eventually enters. But this shouldn’t be seen as something that is uncomfortable or out of the ordinary.
For many, it is a very intimate moment shared between two lovers in which they come together.
No, it is not just a porn thing.
Fisting is more than what you see in porn. The penetration of the whole hand is something of an intimate encounter, and it is performed by many people in real life.
However, unlike in hardcore porn, fisting is something that needs to be performed with a delicate and sensual hand.
You don’t want to start off too aggressive (we can’t forget that you are putting your entire fist up a vagina after all!).
This is a sex act that needs to be done with a gentle and loving hand as to not hurt the female body. It is also important to listen to your sexual partner, especially if this is their first time.
Tips For Fisting
What you should not do when fisting is copying what you see in porn (this can be said for a number of sex acts). It is important to take the safety of your partner into consideration and listen to their cues.
Lube
For the best experience, apply lube before and throughout the sex act. This is so that your partner is comfortable during the fisting session as well as making it easier for the fister.
If you do not have any lube, stimulate your partner naturally and generate that natural lubricant. Foreplay is essential, not only to get your partner in the mood but to make it easier on the woman and her vagina.
It also makes it easier on the fister – it can be hard to enter five fingers into a vagina. Again, it is not as simple as porn makes it out to be, and a lot of work goes into succeeding.
Start Slow
As well as this, you want to start slow. It is not recommended to stick all five fingers in at one go. You want to slowly progress, starting with one finger, then three, until eventually, your whole fist is inside your partner.
Going slow will also help to stimulate your partner, getting her more in the mood. Remember, there is more you can do down there besides entering your fingers. You can play with the clitoris, encouraging your sexual partner.
Cut Your Nails
The last thing you want is your partner feeling uncomfortable. It is important to cut your nails, as it can be painful for your partner if you were to scratch her.
Keeping your nails short will prevent you from any of these risks and make the experience more pleasurable for them.
Wash Your Hands
The final tip is to stay clean. Make sure your hands are clean before planning on fisting your partner by washing your hands and looking after your hygiene.
But, of course, you can’t always plan when you are about to have sex – most of the time it is a natural activity.
However, if you do find yourself being intimate with your partner and know that your hands are not the cleanest, the wise decision would be to avoid fisting altogether.
It may be pleasurable for yourself and for your partner but it is not fun if your partner ends up with a vaginal infection. Make sure to stay clean for the comfort of your partner.
How Does It Feel? The Fistee
The main thing people wonder about the most is how fisting feels. To some it is fascinating, to others the act looks uncomfortable, but the only people who truly know how it feels are the ones who have experienced it.
Fisting feels different depending on the individual. Some love it, some hate it, but that is not to diminish the act of fisting altogether.
If you are participating in the act for the first time, you may find it painful and uncomfortable, however, this comes by no surprise.
When people lose their virginity, many females mention the pain of having a penis enter their vagina for the first time.
This is somewhat the same, however, that penis is now a full hand. But this should not scare you off if you are someone wanting to try it. There are many females who deem fisting a great experience.
This sexual act is one of utmost sensuality and intimacy and this can be enough to make anyone feel great.
One other thing to note is that the way fisting feels also depends on who you are being fisted by. Some find that being fisted by another woman is more pleasurable than a man, for a woman’s touch is generally gentler.
It is also because of the size of the hand. You will find that a smaller hand (the females) will be easier on the vagina than a larger hand (a male’s).
How Does It Feel? The Fister
People don’t tend to remember the fister in all this, only concerning themselves with the fistee. But if you are wanting to play the dominant role in this equation, it is worth knowing what it feels like to fist someone.
For many, it is a very pleasurable experience.
This, unlike the fistee, is not because of the physical feeling, but it is more pleasurable for the sexual partner’s response.
Fisting is an intimate sexual position that brings pleasure and enjoyment to the fistee, and often when your partner’s pleasured, this can be enough to make you feel just as good.
If you are curious about how it feels physically, fisting feels just like it does when penetrating with a penis. You still feel the warmth and moistness of a vagina, but with your fist.
Final Thoughts
It is safe to say that fisting is a whirlwind of a sexual experience. Although glorified through pornography, the act of fisting is subjective depending on the individual.
It can be something amazing for one person, and painful to another. What we can take from this for sure, however, is that this sexual act is an intimate one, bringing people closer together.
There is no harm in trying the activity, so long as you are listening to each other and go at each other’s pace.
So, what’s stopping you!
