In today’s world, there are many different types of kinks. Most people will have at least one. One of the growing kinks within the world of sex is the ever-growing BDSM community. BDSM has lots of followers and is common amongst all genders, classes, and across the World.
What Is BDSM?
BDSM originally stood for bondage and discipline + sadism and masochism.
The DS has more recently been interpreted as meaning dominance and submission. In both definitions, the meaning behind BDSM is perfectly explained.
In other words, BDSM is about using both bondage and dominance, bondage includes things such as tying up, whips, chains, and blindfolds, these are used to assert dominance over another consenting party.
All parties involved in BDSM must consent and be happy to take on their role in order for it to be legal.
Usually, BDSM involves one person dominating and one person being submissive. Generally speaking, the dominator will use the whips and ties and other equipment and the submissive will be the one receiving the ‘punishment’.
It is also a good idea to always have a safe word during BDSM with a mutual agreement that as soon as either party uses the word the sexual acts and domination will both stop immediately.
What Is A Collar?
Collars are a staple piece of BDSM equipment.
They are very symbolic of the relationship between the dominator and the submissive. They are used to showing ownership, a lot like how a pet wears a collar to show that it is owned.
Collars in BDSM were originally mainly used within the bedroom, however, now there are some types that can be used day to day when out and about.
Similarly, collars can be used on their own or with a lead, the lead is generally for bedroom use and not often seen in public.
What Is A Day Collar?
A day collar is a collar that is worn day to day as opposed to just within the four walls of the bedroom. They can be worn in public by the submissive when they are with the dominator or when they are out on their own.
Day collars genuinely look different from the collars used within the bedroom as they look more like normal jewelry but hold significant meaning to both the dominator and the submissive.
Things To Look For When Choosing A Day Collar?
There are many things to consider when choosing a day collar, and we have collated some of our top tips to hopefully help you to choose the right one for you.
Discreteness
Depending on how discreet you want your day collar to be, you could try and find a piece that just looks like normal jewelry. The vast majority of people use a necklace or a choker for their day collar.
Meaning
Really think about the meaning that you want your day collar to hold and what you would like it to symbolize. Try to find one that accurately represents what you want it to.
You might want it to acknowledge your submissive status or to remind yourself of the bond that you have with the dominator amongst other things.
Color
This may sound simple, but just like when choosing anything, it is important to think about the color. Think about what colors you are comfortable wearing, as well as what each color symbolizes to you.
You could get one in a dull color to avoid drawing attention to it, or you could get one in your or your dominator’s favorite color.
Price
Price is a factor to consider when buying anything. Almost everyone has some sort of budget, so a good idea is to start by figuring out what your budget is. Once you have a budget in mind, you can look for some day collars much easier.
Remember, you don’t need to spend a lot of money, and nice necklaces and chokers come in a range of prices.
Work
Try to consider whether there are any external factors that restrict what kind of day collar you can have.
For instance, if your work has a strict dress code, it may be a good idea to choose one that fits in with this so that you can wear it all the time.
Obviously, if you do not plan on wearing it to work, or you do not have a strict dress code for work, then this will not apply.
You may face other restrictions, though, such as if you are involved with a particular sport or have certain religious beliefs.
What Are The Benefits Of A Day Collar For The Submissive Party?
It is normal to wonder what benefit wearing a day collar actually brings, but the problem is that there is no one simple answer to this, as every individual wears one for a different reason and every sub and dom relationship is different.
Some of the main reasons that submissive individuals choose to wear a day collar include:
To Show Loyalty
Many submissives enjoy showing their sexual partner that they are loyal to them. In these cases, the day collar acts as a symbol of loyalty and shows that they are already ‘owned’ by somebody.
To Be Rewarded
Some doms may reward their submissive partners for certain behaviors, these behaviors can include wearing their day collar. Rewards can be both sexual and nonsexual, but they are something that many submissives strive for.
For Aesthetic Reasons
Some submissives may simply like the aesthetic effect of the day collar and wear it for this reason. Much like many accessories, if they make the person wearing them feel good about themselves, then this can often be the main motivation behind wearing them.
To Feel A Sense Of Belonging
Wearing a day collar can, as previously mentioned, suggest that an individual is part of the BDSM community.
For this reason, day collars can create a sense of belonging. It is only natural to want to feel like you belong somewhere and if this is how some individuals get a sense of belonging then that’s a good enough reason to wear one.
What Are The Benefits Of A Day Collar For The Dominant Party?
The day collar also brings about some positives for the dominant party some of which are listed below:
Shows Dominance
The day collar is often used to show ownership of the sub, which is something that many dominants like. It allows the connection between the dom and sub to be a constant.
Shows Other Doms That The Sub Is Taken
Within the BDSM community, the collar is recognized as a symbol that an individual already has a dom therefore the dominant partner can feel secure knowing that people will know that the other person is taken.
Final Thoughts
Day collars are not only stylish pieces, but they also hold a great amount of meaning within the BDSM community.
It is up to the submissive partner whether they choose to wear one or not, but if they do choose to then there are lots of styles to choose from.
Generally speaking, day collars are discreet and come in the form of necklaces or chokers.
